What Messages Are You Communicating To Your Child?

What Messages Are You Communicating To Your Child?

Not Now Mommy

You’re on the phone, your child walks in and tugs at your legs to get your attention. “Not now, mommy is on the phone”. She comes back 10 minutes later, “mommy, mommy, mommy”, again you shush her away because you have yet to finish your conversation. This goes on for the full hour you spend on the phone with your girlfriend who’s going on and on about a situation you already gave her advice about. Sounds familiar?

What message is being communicated to your children when you don’t stop to acknowledge them?  Not a very good one. Don’t get me wrong, there will be very important phone calls and emergency situations, however if this is a regular routine in your home for sure your child is being cultivated to believe she is secondary to your conversations.

Let’s take it a step further. Don’t you acknowledge your husband immediately when he tries to get your attention while you’re on the phone? She’s observing that too. Something to ponder on.

Stop. Smile. Greet.

Another way we communicate messages to our children is by our response to them when they walk into the room. Do you stop, smile, and greet your child with warm friendly hugs and kisses or are you so frustrated from life you don’t realize you have a permanent frown?

Children can’t decipher that mommy’s stressed out and is not in the best mood. They take that permanent frown you keep greeting them with very personal and end up having a bad complex throughout they’re adulthood.

Be Aware Of The Messages You Communicate

Many of us parents overlook our actions. For the welfare of your children, please become more aware of the messages you communicate daily. It will save them from a lot of unnecessary emotional pain and in essence will save you from the backlash most parents receive when they don’t invest wisely in their children.

My name is Hujrah Wahhaj, your Personal Relationship Development Coach, and remember you are one relationship away from your breakthrough.

2 Responses to What Messages Are You Communicating To Your Child?

  1. Alhamdulillah! Wonderful reminder. Children are watching our every move! I am a full time stundent taking classes online. I used to try to get work done during the day, but it was causing too much friction between me and my girls ages 1 and 3. They were crying all the time, getting into mischief. I get a much better response when I include them and do activities. I AM A MOM 1st! I’d rather fail my classes and excel as a mother and wife than the other way around! But Alhamdulillah, I am doing well in school, just had too reassess how I was spending my time :)

  2. Oh how wonderful Krisheena!! I think as parents we are always reassessing when it pertains to our children’s well being. We want to be the best parents we can and sometimes we get caught up in our mundane schedules and totally forget about the things that matter the most. I can’t be happier to know that you are on your way to being the best you can be as an individual, wife, mother, student, servant, and human. This is wonderful news! thank you my dear for sharing and please keep me posted with graduation! YAY!

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