Why do we women feel like our spouses need to love us more than anything or anyone else in the world? Why do we wait until his favorite sports team is playing to stand in front of the television until he proves that he loves us more?
Ladies here’s a secret, the longer you try to compete or make your husband choose between the very thing that he loves (outside of you of course) such as a favorite sports team, a hobby, a best friend, a parent, a sibling, his favorite place, etc the further you will push him away.
Your husband needs something outside of you to channel some of his energy. If your relationship is overall in a good state, give him that special time alone when he’s able to be motivated or inspired by whatever means he likes.
In fact, you should encourage it because the happier he is, the happier you will be. And trust me he will love you more for stepping back and allowing him to have his personal time.
If your relationship is on the rocks than most likely his love for these things or people makes you a tad jealous so it’s imperative you work on the issues at hand and not use this as another problem to the list. If you do this, and unfortunately I see it all the time, your husband will regret you and your interaction with him will be limited and unsatisfying.
Don’t compete with what your husband loves, join forces. Encourage him (with boundaries of course), and I promise your time together will be all the more worth wild, because he will appreciate that you understand him and wants him to be happy, thus making you happy.
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Until we meet again, Happy Reading!